We all know at least one. Those people that cause us to “pull a 180” when we see them from afar. The “friends”, acquaintances or coworkers who seem to cast a shadow of toxicity everywhere they go. They spread negativity, create conflicts, and cause you unnecessary stress. And frankly, it can be JUST. SO. DRAINING. The good news? There ARE strategies you can use to protect yourself and preserve your sanity. Here are three of the most recognizable types of toxic people you’ll come across, and some effective strategies to best handle them to preserve your mental well-being.  

THREE COMMON TYPES

THE DRAMA KING OR QUEEN. These guys thrive on creating chaos and stirring up trouble. They blow things out of proportion, gossip, manipulate emotions, and thrive on attention.

HOW TO HANDLE THE DRAMA KING OR QUEEN:

• Establish clear boundaries and refuse to engage in their drama. Politely walk away from gossip or drama-filled conversations.
• Avoid taking sides or getting involved in their conflicts. Maintain a neutral stance and focus on maintaining a peaceful environment.
• Shift the focus of conversations towards more positive or productive topics.

THE NARCISSIST. Narcissists have an inflated sense of self-importance, lack empathy for others, and seek constant admiration and validation. They may manipulate or belittle others to maintain their sense of superiority.

HOW TO HANDLE THE NARCISSIST:

• Set firm boundaries by assertively communicating your needs and expectations. Refuse to tolerate disrespectful or manipulative behavior.
• Limit interaction and minimize contact with narcissistic individuals whenever possible.
• Protect your mental and emotional well-being. Focus on building relationships with positive influences and seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if needed.

THE VICTIM. Victims have a tendency to blame others for their problems, refuse to take responsibility for their actions, and seek sympathy and attention.

HOW TO HANDLE THE VICTIM:

• Offer empathy and support, but avoid enabling their behavior or rescuing them from consequences. Encourage them to take responsibility for their actions and seek solutions to their problems.
• Establish boundaries to protect yourself from being drawn into their cycle of negativity. Refuse to participate in pity parties or enable their victim mentality.
• Encourage victims to empower themselves by developing problem-solving skills.  Offer resources or suggestions for self-improvement and personal development.

 Handling toxic people effectively is essential for preventing burnout and protecting your mental health in our modern world.  It ALWAYS requires assertiveness, clear and often tough boundary-setting, and careful communication. By recognizing their repeat characteristics and implementing some of these effective strategies for dealing with them, you can safeguard yourself from these energy thieves and preserve your own well-being.